How should a girl...you know
Okay, I'm 17 year old female and admittedly I've never had an orgasm. I have no desire to have sex until I'm in a committed relationship, but I would like to try masturbation. The thought of having sex is actually a real turn off and it makes me feel sick just to think about it.
It's not so much an age thing (like I'm in a rush to become sexually active) even though I'm going to 18 really soon, it's just that it's taken me forever to start having sexual thoughts. I was more than fine having a non-existent sex drive but now that I am feeling this way I'm really unsure.
I mean, I know heaps of girls do it but because sex has always been sort of freak-out thing for me (I've never even kissed any of my boyfriends, who I've had only a few of) and now I want to start touching myself I'm unsure of how I should feel about it. I want to but it feels almost wrong in a way. It's not like i've had a religious upbringing where sex outside of marriage is condoned, I just don't want to feel guilty about touching myself.
Comments / Feedback
first off, know that you're not weird at all. every single person on this earth has a different sex drive and starts wanting to have sex at a different age. only start having sex when you feel completely ready to do so.
masturbating is a healthy and normal way to discover what you find pleasurable and to further your understanding and appreciation of your own body. i would encourage you to perhaps read a story or watch a movie that you find arousing first, or even write yourself a story - anything that causes you to feel like being sexual.
each woman is different in what she finds enjoyable but if it is your first time, i'd encourage you to stroke, touch and rub your clitoris (the small button of nerve endings above your vagina) until you find a rhythm and pressure that feels good for you. don't think about trying to reach orgasm, just go with what feels good. you will have an orgasm naturally once you have a sense of what is pleasurable for your own body. good luck :)