Having sex for the first time but not knowing what they feel about you!
Hey i'm 16 and a girl and i was at a party with 2 of ma friends. We bought drinks and were havin a laugh with everyone. Ma friends went off with their boyfriends. I didn't mind because i was with a boy who sed he liked me and was up for some fun. I was on my 6th drink and stated to feel wasted but i kept goin.
I was with the boy and we started to kiss on the seat. He then fingered me and said do you want to go over there. (We were out near the fire.) He took me behind the shed and got me on the floor. We kept kissing he took my undies off and kept fingering me. I was fine with it and everything. We had sex. He stayed with me all night and got his dad to take me and ma friends back home. In the mornin my friends looked at ma dress. It was covered in blood but i had it going down my bk. It was from ma back rubbing against the floor. Now i have scabs going all up ma back. Ma friends helped me clean it up.
It's been 1 week now and i've onli spoken to him 2 times. Mum and dad don't now about it! Now i reali like him but am too scared to ask him what he feels about me! I don't know what to do. Anyone got anything to help me?
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Do u think he was just using you?
Would u do it again?
Do u love him?
If you answer these questions truthfully you may find an answer
Hey sweetheart i'm 16 as well and I lost my virginity at 15. I really can't blame it on the boy because I was young and just wanted to try it, and hey he was there. He was a friend of my cousin's boyfriend, I had sex with him the first day I met him because I thought it was cool. He really didn't pressure me although he was 21. The signs came immediately though. He stopped calling & coming to see me and I knew that was the end.
I'm glad I had that experience because i'm smarter now. I now have a boyfriend which I have been with for 8 months and we are deeply in love. We have had sex 6 times. I love him soo much and that first experience taught me maybe not 2 give it up so easy and use protection. I only had unprotected sex with my boyfriend once and thought I was pregnant and that scared me so much and taught me my second lesson. Good luck girl, I say dnt throw urself on 2 him. If he likes u as u like him then he will come around.
To the poster before me: Hey, that might not be why she likes him ("you like him because you lost your virginity to him") ...you don't know. (Could be partly why, but you don't know.)
Okay, now to the original poster: 16 is probably old enough to decide what you want to do about boys, but you still might want to think about making more careful decisions. There is no age at which having sex with a guy you literally just met (or having sex at a party, for that matter!) would be a particularly great (or even safe) idea. You really don't know if you and he actually like each other, or just like each other's bodies, or what, until you know him longer than just the one night at the one party.
You should be more careful and not have sex with just anybody whom you just met. You could get painful emotional scars that would hurt a lot longer than the scabs on your back. You also could get seriously hurt, get STDs, get raped and/or killed, etc. Be careful, okay?
Now, about the boy...if you can get to talk to him again, maybe you could ask if he wants to meet you at a semi-private but semi-public place like a park or a school or something? (Where you can easily still find places where you can talk fairly privately and kiss if you want to, but where having sex might be less easy/convenient...if you're there in the daytime, anyway.) Anyway, please could you just keep in mind that just because you're old enough to make a lot of your own decisions, that doesn't mean that you need to make not-particularly-safe decisions? Just try to stay safe, okay?
im only 12 but i really get what u are going through. if i was you i would not drink again for a while. talk to him. ask him truthfully if he was just horny or if he did it because he really likes you