If only i could tell you
Ok i'm 15 years old and i'm a lesbian. No one knows about it and it hurts not to say anything.
It started in Year 6. I started getting funny around girls. I didn't know what it was then but i sure do now. At first i thought it was just a stage i would grow out of, you know, like people talk about all the time in mags. But it wasn't, it just kept at me all the time. I felt disgusted with myself. I thought i wouldn't be able to live with myself.
Now i'm okay i guess, even though i'm living in total secrecy. I think about telling my mum but then i think will she disown me---will she hate me or think it's disgusting? I hate myself. Every day in my group at school we are always making fun of people and calling them gay and saying they are poofs, and afterwards i feel so ashamed. I just feel the same way with them as i do with my mum and family. I don't know what to do.
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it may take her some time. but try and tell her gently, e.g. "mum im not sure about my sexuality" (even though you know, this way you can see what she feels), or you could just say "mum i think i like girls" (once again, see her reaction). once you leave school none of that will matter, it really won't. & if you mention this to your friends & they treat you differently, act differently, even begin to be mean, then theyre not youre real friends - real friends stick together. you could tell your closest friend and see her reaction, to help you see what may happen with your mum or others.
get a life unless you want to be a freak your whole life, which dosent bother me @ all but it may may bother you in the long run
Before you come out of the closet girl, ACCEPT YOURSELF FIRST!!!!. the moment you realise youre comfortable with your sexuality, then come out....come out to the people close to you, people who love you, people who matter...IGNORE the negativity coming from haters....they aren't worth your tears...good luck sweety pie.
if it was meant for men to be with men and women to be with women god would have made us all one sex and not two.
omg i am exactly the same! i have told my friends about it and they support mi maybe u shuld tell ur friends too.
i know exactly how it is. trust me you will feel better if you tell them. Although it may seem like it is the hardest thing possible now, later you will thank yourself for it. don't be afraid or anxious, it will all turn out great. good luck.
it would be better to tell ur friends and family. if they care they will support u, if not just give them time.
i agree with the third comment. I dont know if this will help but there is a movie thats is somewhat of the situation your in. "The Truth About Jane". Remember, kids who tease you only do it because they understand and are scared. Good luck sweet heart!
hey...! im in pretty much the exact position except i told someone nd it got spead round the skwl but ya knw u cnt trust no one these days. then ya know tellin someone does help. if u dnt want to tell a fried tell an adult that u trust and you are close with..! dw bout tellen ur mum. trust me i thought the same things but she didnt disown me. its all goin gwd if she loves you...! she will love u for who u are...!
i would recommend telling your mum first. i would not think she would disown you and she would probably be supportive. if i was you i would just hint to your friends and if they they call you lesbian don't tell them.
Tell your mother if she really loves you then she would understand. Tell your friends... and if they are really your friends they will understand.
your parents love you no matter what. maybe you should try talking to her when you feel ready or talk to someone or a counsellor or call kids helpline. its best to get bit of help and then when ur ready talk to ur mum. im sure she would understand.
sweety i reckon being same sex attracted is hot. A lot of girls do think about experimenting with other girls and some try it and like it. subconsciously every girl has a bit of bi curious in her i think. Nothing is wrong with being gay. easier said than done i know. it takes a while but you will accept it.
just tell her
all i want to do is give you a hug and tell you that those people who dont understand dont matter and those that do understand do matter!! Good luck for the future sweetie and stay strong!! you are a beautiful person!!!
