I'm 15 years old and I think I'm a sex addict.
It's getting in the way of my social life and my school work.
I spend most of my time watching porn and wanking, I'm up till 3 or 4 o'clock in the morning watching porn, and I have to be up at 7 to go to school. I masturbate 5 or six times a night, once in the morning and then once when I get back from school so in total yes 8 or 9 times a day
I go to school 5 days a week but I'm so tired because I'm up all night that on a weekend I'm in bed till 2 or 3 in the afternoon, my schoolwork is going downhill because I'm so tired, and I hardly go out because I'm so tired and would rather watch another xxx movie.
I know it's bad and I have tried to cut down but it just makes me angry and frustrated, and I find that I constantly get an erection whether I'm at school or at home even on the bus that's why I have to wear two pairs of trousers and baggy tops so no one notices.
I don't know whether or not this is normal as us boys don't really speak about this sort of thing, but it is really getting in the way of my life and I need to quit or slow down or something.
I just don't know how to quit because it's constantly on my mind
Can someone please give me some advice?
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I'd just go cold turkey on the porn if i was u mate.
maybe you should start cutting down and not do it so much.
however, if it the urge to masturbate is so excessive, if it controls you rather than you controlling it, and if it is impairing your social and school life, that's a problem, as you already know.
have you talked to anyone about this? first, talk to your parents, b/c if u are really adddicted, that can be serious and lead to serious complications in coping with life in general later on; you'll want to deal with it NOW. plus, it will be a big relief just to share this information with someone close to you who cares about you. additionally, try to find and join a youth support group that deals with teenage sex addiction; i know they are out there, b/c if this is affecting you, it is affecting others. it's helpful and very therapeutic to have others around who understand you and who can encourage you to deal positively with the overwhelming urge to masturbate so often.
possibly, the first step towards actively coping with this problem is to throw away your XXX movies and other porn paraphernalia. that way, when you have an urge to watch them, you can't anyway b/c they won't be there. as a second step, try to get a hobby, like sports or playing an instrument. this will occupy your mind and take up a lot more of your time, so you won't be sitting around thinking about masturbating every second (hopefully).
best wishes, and i hope that you find support :-)
In the end, my life is better without porn. Sure, most people will say it's fine, but if it doesn't feel right for you, then it's not right for you. Maybe make some practical steps towards stopping, like getting rid of your mags and dvds. I moved the tv out of my room cos i sucked at staying away from it. Good luck, you can beat it.
a) You are spot on for recognising that you have a problem and seeking advice on it.
b) Do your best to remove the opporunity to repeat this activity, if you can make it practically impossible even better.
c) Surround yourself with positive minded, forward thinking people for as long as possible every day.
d) Set yourself some subtsantial career/business/sporting goals write them down & refer to them daily.
e) Try to discover the dignity, decency, soul & charm of girls. Women who respect themselves as these qualities are far more satisfying and endearing that the purely physical attractions of the ones who sell themselves out in the porn materials regardless of how good they may look.
f) Seek professional help.
g) tell someone who you can trust/who genuinly loves you and will help/support you.
h) check this link: http://www.geocities.com/rdoder/index.html
i) Yes I know you can beat it bro, perhaps not overnight but you CAN and you WILL.
You just need to admit it to someone other than "cyber friends". Like a phsyciatrist. They really didn't work for me, but it's worth a shot.
also get a girlfrend
In anycase, decide what you want to do, then promise your best friend, then promise yourself. Then if you can, help someone else, and you will always keep your commitment.
I know what you mean! Porn just draws you in! You say that when you try to cut down you just get frustrated. I feel the same, when i try to stop it feels like i'm always thinking about sex and wanking.
its obviously having an affect on your life. It would be a good idea if you cut out the porn (yes it will consume your thoughts for a while but it'll eventually go away). Don't masturbate so much (i know, easier said than done!). occupy yourself with other things. if you dont trust yourself then keep yourself around people (eg: your mum).
Just try to keep yourself busy with other things and concentrate on your work. Good luck, you can do it! :P
p.s. helps when you get a boner to think about someone old lol
around 8% of men have a porn addiction. i recently discovered my partner has an addiction and it started when he was a teenager. he does not understand it and we are only just now looking at what we can do about it.
the only thing you can do is seek help through counselling. it is an addiction and it wont go away. your life will be ruled by it. getting a girlfriend and having sex will not fix it as you wont get the same pleasures from a real girl, you will only get pleasure from the porn. your brain will have already trained itself to make this happen.
mostly the men affected by a porn addiction have a controlling mother or one that found it hard to express love and affection to you. before it all becomes worse for you seek the help of professionals, look up porn addiction online, break the cycle and most of all do not feel shame with this problem. it is a growing common problem in men and believe me you will not be able to have any fulfilling relationships in your future if you do not seek help.
i think you should tell a girl about this. im a girl and i have the tendency of speaking my mind to guys which makes them attached to me. im stupid for this cuz i cant get a boyfriend cuz all of em say "Im their best freind". My friend had this problem. he used to tell me how he did it before school and stuff too. I found it completely normal; i mean youre a guy, its hard to help yourself. but girls can give good advice.
im not saying i cured him but he did thank me because he said that he felt embarrased since he had told me but i didnt make a mean ol' deal about it. i was like well why don't you just watch cartoons or something. (: i know kiddy shit but i mean you cant get turned on with a cartoon. (or at least i hope so) i kept my eye on him and always would embarrass him when he was turned on or something. i would tell him that whatever he was getting turned on by was whackkk ! ;D if you have a girl bestfriend i think you can trust her and tell her. its always good to have a person that you think will think its wrong.
I am a recovering and still struggling porn addict. you cannot beat this by yourself. The answer is not finding a gf or getting addicted to something else, or just going cold turkey. What you, me and everyone else need is to come to Jesus just as we are. A lot of people have this concept that he is cruel or unaccessible, while that is the complete opposite. He loves you beyond words and said that if he sets you free, then you are free indeed. A girl on here gave some great advice - STOP telling God how big your problems are, and START telling your problems how big God is!!!
Also, last idea is think about the consequences of porn before looking at it, and you will always see that the consequences are not worth the short "thrill" that porn offers.