Why can't i seem to trust?
Well then... where do i start?
Ever since about Grade 7 i've found it hard to really open up to people and fully trust people. However i still do have close friends and it doesn't seem to affect my school life.
However at home it's a completely different story. My parents and i know that i haven't really trusted them and to be honest i haven't really told them anything about my "social" life. Even if i want to i just seem to have this inability and i just can't and it's not like they're the worst possible parents.
I just feel kind of bad about this and the only reason i can talk about it here is that i am anonymous. Do i have some psychological inability to trust? I don't know...
Thanks for your question.
It sounds like you're worried about not being able to fully trust people. I'm hearing that you do trust people in some way because you have close friends and you said your school life isn't affected. Trust seems to be more of an issue for you around your family.
Lots of people your age don't feel like sharing everything about their social life with their parents. You also said that your parents aren't that bad. Is it sharing and talking about stuff that you find difficult rather than trust issues? Even just talking to them about how it's hard to trust is sharing and moving closer to trusting.
It sounds like you're giving yourself a pretty hard time about this. I definitely don't think this is about a psychological inability to trust.
We learn ways of doing things through different experiences. Where or when do you think you learnt not to trust (particularly your family)? You said that something changed around Grade 7. What happened around then? Have you been hurt or let down by people, which might have led to you feel this way?
You trust your close friends to a point. What's different about this for you, compared to trusting your parents? Think about some examples of how you have been able to trust other people (e.g. with your friends), and get some hints from these times to help you out with other relationships (e.g. with your parents).
Hope this has helped. Take care.
