He's allergic to latex. Is there an alternative? He makes sure to pull out but I still get nervous...
So my boyfriend and I are both 18. We've both had sex before and were both comfortable with seeing each other without clothes. But I've got just a few concerns.
First, he doesn't wear a condom because he's allergic to latex. Is there an alternative?
Second, I'm on the pill but still worried that I could get pregnant (even tho he has told me he has a low sperm count). Are there any other precautions I could be doing to prevent that? He makes sure to pull out before he cums but I still get nervous about it sometimes...
And last, I'm not completely sure if I've orgasmed. I start to breathe really fast and my heartbeat races along with some quivering but I'm just not sure and when he asks I never really know what to say. I don't want him to feel like he doesn't please me and be hurt.
Hi and thanks for your question.
Yes there is an alternative: non-latex condoms are available at drug stores for people with latex allergies.
The pill is over 99% effective in preventing pregnancy if taken correctly. "If taken correctly" means not missing any pills, avoiding sex for 7 days if you do miss a pill, and avoiding sex if you take antibiotics or have vomiting or diarrhoea for that period and for 7 days after.
Some women prefer to use condoms as well as the pill as a further protection, but as long as you are using the pill correctly this is not essential. It is a personal choice and if it's important to you to feel more secure then that is fine. Condoms have the added benefit of protecting against sexually transmissible infections (STIs), which is important.
While it's hard to tell from what you said, it sounds like you are most likely getting close to orgasm but not actually having an orgasm. It's important to be honest with your boyfriend. If you tell him that you are having an orgasm but you are not, you won't be able to find out what does bring you to orgasm. He would be more hurt if you were not honest just to please him I am sure. Stay honest and explore what feels good for you. Like many women, you may need oral or hand stimulation to the clitoris before you reach orgasm.
All the best.