I feel horrible when he says he loves me, and I just say I like him heaps. What should I do?
Hi, I've been seeing a guy for about a month and a half and I really like him. He's the sweetest thing, funniest guy I know, he's so like wise for a guy at 12. He uses words the other guys don't, like small things. Like embrace etc. He's not the easiest on the eyes as far as they go, but I don't care. We've kissed before, but it's still a little awkward.
I actually have two questions, so please help as much as you can!
Question 1: We've kissed a bit—we first did about a week ago. But I'm not that comfortable with it yet.
I'm not sure about me being the best kisser in the world, coz he was my first kiss and he has kissed heaps before me. I want it to be natural when we kiss. Not like huge make out sessions or anything, just for it to feel good when we do. Right now it feels a bit weird. He's my one of my first boyfriends, so is this normal? All our friends know about us and they're all cool with it, too.
Question 2: I think he likes me more than i like him. When we have those cutsie convos he talks about giving me love and stuff, and I can only go as far as saying I like him heaps, without being dishonest. I feel horrible when he says he loves me, and I just say I like him heaps. What should I do? What can help?
Hi there. It's good to ask questions when something is bothering you.
I think you should go easy on yourself. With kissing, everyone has to start somewhere and like you say, it's just about it feeling good. So relax, because I'm sure you're fine at kissing. When we relax and enjoy what's happening, it's more fun for both people.
It's also okay that you're not feeling you want to promise love and intense feelings. You like him, and that's a good start. Love means so many different things to different people. The word love in the sentence "I love chocolate, my dog and you" means very different things!
Say what feels right for you. It's still early days in your relationship. Some people talk easily about love but most people find it takes time to get to know someone and get to know their feelings. Don't feel bad about that. Hopefully your boyfriend can understand that you will say it, if it feels right to you to do that. As you say, saying we love someone but not meaning it feels dishonest.
Take it slowly. You are off to a good start.
