I'm in love with my dance teacher. I have a boyfriend i love very much, but it's not the same.
I'm in love with my dance teacher. He is 20. I'm 14.
I have a boyfriend i love very much, but it's not the same. When I am with my dance teacher i forget about everything, and when we dance the world stops.
I believe in "the one", falling in love only once, but I can't figure out whether to go with the guy i feel i am meant to be with or the guy who is always gonna be there...
I actually cut (previously) myself because of this. I thought it would go away, but the issue has been there for 2 years.
Hello. Having a crush on someone we admire, like our teacher, is a perfectly natural part of growing up. We ALL go through it.
Maybe the first thing you should recognise is that it's inappropriate and illegal for someone over the age of 18 to have any sort of intimate contact or sexual relationship with someone who is under 18. It is also against to law when one person is in a position of authority, such as your dance teacher is, over you. He could get into BIG trouble for crossing either of these lines.
Although it may certainly feel like it is, having a crush on someone does not necessarily mean he is "the one". It's actually very normal for us to find other people besides our boyfriends or girlfriends attractive. This is not your fault and not something you should feel guilty about. It's even more normal for us feel like we're in love with someone who shares our passion for something (such as dancing) and who makes us feel alive doing it (dancing with him).
"The one" is usually not someone we admire to the point of idolisation but rather someone we truly know. Someone we are on the same page with. Someone who knows who we are under the masks we might put on to the rest of the world. Someone who respects us, honours us, and has the same values as us.
Maybe you need to be a bit more spontaneous with your boyfriend. It could just be the rush or initial excitement that we get at the beginning of a relationship that you are longing for, rather than someone new entirely.
Sometimes however, there is no "answer" and we get through our crushes simply with the passing of time. The more you can come to terms with the fact that you must keep up a normal, appropriate student-teacher relationship with your dance teacher and nothing more, the more your feelings for him may fade.
We have all been there. Having a crush on a teacher is all that it is... and often, all that it should be. Good luck!