I get the feeling that i'm doing it wrong or i just need a guy to do it.
Hello erm just a small question... i have been trying for the past month to try and feel orgasm... I don’t like trying to finger myself, i just play with my clit. I can do it for so long then i just can’t do it anymore—it gets really sensitive n i just can’t seem to cum.
I get the feeling that either i can’t or i'm doing it wrong or i just need a guy to do it. Just wanna know what i'm doing wrong. Thank you xx
Hi, thanks for asking a good question.
Achieving orgasm can take a bit of practise for a lot of people. It sounds like you are doing it right (there isn't really a "wrong" way to do it) but it might be good to try some different things.
You might be having orgasms, which is why you get sensitive, or you might be going too long and so it gets sore. Sometimes if we're expecting earth-shaking orgasms like in the movies, we don't notice the smaller orgasms. If you are having a build-up, then release of tension with the clit being sensitive afterwards, you're having an orgasm.
Clitoral stimulation works well but sometimes women want to increase the pressure in the vagina or in the belly. Many women find they like having something inside the vagina (which doesn't have to be a guy). Vibrators or just something smooth, able to be washed and long enough to be gotten out safely, can provide that stimulation. Other tricks that can increase the tension build-up include tensing the vagina (by pulling the muscles inwards), tensing the legs or holding the breath.
It's good you are exploring and getting to know your body. It will help to know what works for you when you are ready to be sexual with a guy. All the best.
