Just wondering whether or not i should have sex without birth control.
Hey i was just wondering whether or not i should have sex without birth control. Like i've had sex before without birth control but with a condom, and the condom just kinda ruined it for me.
I was thinking that if i was on birth control i wouldn't have to worry about the condom. I've been thinking of talking to my doctor in private about going on it but my mum will have to know right? My older sister's on it and my mum used to be on it and they both say all the bad things about it and how they went a little crazy when they first went on it. That's why i partly don't want my mum knowing because she's going to say no.
My mum doesn't know that i'm sexually active and i'm not really planning on telling her anytime soon. Also i wanna go on birth control because i don't want to get PREGNANT! But i don't want to use a condom.
Hi, thanks for your question. It's great that you want to protect yourself from an unplanned pregnancy and are thinking about a type of contraception that may suit you.
Did you know that the legal age for consent (to say yes) to sex in the ACT is 16? This means that if you are under 16, no one is allowed to have sex with you. Even if you agree to have sex with someone, it's still against the law. Have a look at the Lawstuff link below for more information.
You should never feel forced into having sex and should only do sexual stuff that you feel comfortable with. If you are forced, this is sexual assault and is a crime. If this happens to you, you should speak with someone you trust.
You said that condoms ruined the experience for you. Condoms are an important contraceptive, because not only do they protect you against a possible pregnancy, but they are the only type of contraception that will reduce the risk of getting a sexually transmissible infection (STI). Condom use can feel be more sensual if used with a water-based lubricant. You could also try using thinner condoms, which some people say feel less like wearing a condom.
People have different experiences when they go onto different contraceptives. You said your mother and sister went a little crazy on the pill. This is probably because of the amount of hormone in the oral contraceptive pill. Some women may become moody when on it, just like they might be moody or a little out of sorts in the lead up to their monthly period. There are many contraceptives available. Check out the link below to find the one that may best suit you. A lot of young women are choose Implanon, the hormone rod, because it's cost effective, lasts for 3 years and you don't have to remember to take it every day.
It might be good for you to make an appointment with a doctor or nurse who can discuss contraceptive options with you. Try Sexual Health and Family Planning ACT if you don't know where to go. Their service is confidential, which means you can go there without your mum finding out.
If you choose to go on a contraceptive, such as the pill, and decide not to use condoms it's important to have regular sexual health check ups to make sure you are healthy and don't have any STIs, and if you do, you can have it treated or managed straight away. The service above can do this for you.
All the best.
