Thanks for your question. It's pretty normal for sex to be on your mind a lot around the time you start having it—it's a huge step to have taken! It's great to hear that you and your boyfriend love each other. I hope that you feel comfortable talking to him about sex as well as acting on it.

Sex can change relationships a lot—sometimes for the better, and sometimes for the worse. What seems to make all the difference is how the 2 of you deal with having taken this big step together.

Try to answer these questions:

• Do you talk more now that you've had sex?
  
• Are you feeling safe and able to express what you want/need in your relationship?
  
• Do you feel better or worse about yourself after having sex?
  
• Do you feel better or worse about your relationship after having sex?