Can i control this white stuff? I don't want to be embarrassed in front of him.
I'm 14 and there's this guy i really like but i feel like he's one of the guys that have the really high expectations for sex. He has had intercourse several times and I'm scared out of my mind that he will be grossed out or bothered if he sees a thick sort of white liquid coming out of my vagina instead of a clear liquid gushing out the urethra. I feel this is not normal and would rather have clear liquids.
As weird as it may be i told my brother about this and he seemed as disgusted as he could possibly be. My brother is this guy's best friend and he knows him better than i do. I have noticed that this guy, whenever he recognises someone he has had intercourse with, he comments on some of it. I noticed some of the comments weren't good, such as "she has the nastiest tasting vagina" or "she has the worst smelling vagina".
I've noticed the white stuff oozing out has a funny odour. I'm embarrassed about this incredibly. Basically what i am asking is, can i control this white stuff? Can i squirt clear stuff instead? And how can i get rid of the odour that i smell sometimes in my vagina? I'm scared to death and don't want to be embarrassed in front of him. I would also like to know how to clean my vagina properly to get rid of the odour.
Please help me. I would love to know as soon as possible.
Hi. It's good you're asking these questions.
I'd guess that your brother was grossed out talking about things like this with his sister, not because there is necessarily anything wrong with your body fluids! Just to reassure you, a whitish fluid is normal for the vagina. It's the lubricant for sex and is the way the vagina cleans itself. The fluid has it's own smell and taste, which is unique. Just like cum from guys, it's not supposed to smell or taste like flowers. As long as guys and girls are showered and have no infection, these body fluids are normal and natural.
Most guys have worked this out themselves but it's a bit of a worry if the guy you're writing about is bad-mouthing girls he's had sex with. It actually makes him sound inexperienced and trying to big-note himself by putting other people down.
In sex, women don't have any clear fluids (e.g. urine) spurting out of their urethra. Maybe what you heard about (or saw in porn?) is when women's G-spot is stimulated, which can in some women cause a gush of fluid. But for most occasions of sex, only the guys do any gushing.
Don't get too worried trying to please someone. Sometimes women cause irritation by over-cleaning or deodorising their vagina. Inside the vagina is self-cleaning and doesn't need anything. Outside the vagina, just use any gentle soap and water that you like. The vagina doesn't need to be disinfected.
It is good to know what your normal vaginal fluid is like because if it changes, that can be a sign of an infection or imbalance in the vagina. For example, if the vaginal fluid becomes thick, like cottage cheese, and itchy, that is a sign of thrush (also called candida), which is an imbalance in the vagina. This can happen when women have been on antibiotics or have disinfected the vagina too much (which knocks out the good bacteria in the vagina). Thrush can be treated with an anti-fungal cream.
Before becoming sexual with someone, make sure you like their attitude to you and other women. Make sure condoms will be used because you need to protect yourself from falling pregnant or catching a sexually spread infection, such as chlamydia. Maybe you are so worried because you're not really sure about this guy or ready in your own mind. It can be better to wait until you feel ready. At 14 you're most likely under the age of consent for sex, which is another good reason to wait a while.
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