I think i'm in love with my best friend's ex-boyfriend. I don't know what I should do.
I think i'm in love with my best friend's ex-boyfriend. Why is that?
I'm 14, a gay male from America and my best friend had this guy she dated for a while and they seemed to be in love until he cut it off. I don't know if he still has feelings towards her or not but she does towards him.
I am sceptical on making a move on him because of what she'll think and because of what he'll think. I spoke to him briefly about my feelings towards him and he laughed them off.
I don't know what I should do because I really like this guy. His face just lights up my day but I know she still likes him. I've been feeling like this for a while now and I know I can't change this situation but i'm trying my hardest to let go of these feelings.
He sends me mixed signals about his sexuality. He once said he tried the whole dating a guy thing and it didn't work out but I don't know. He's goofy but I love him and the more I talk about him the more I fall. I just can't stop but I feel so wrong because she might still like him... PLEASE HELP!
Hi and thanks for asking.
You are in a pretty difficult situation here because first of all, you don't know if this guy is gay or bi (or if he'd be in to you), and second of all, your best friend still has feelings for him.
The right thing to do here is just to back off—step away from the situation—because you risk damaging your relationship with your friend, and with this guy. Take a break from having any contact with him, and focus on helping your friend through her break up. It's the right thing to do and you need to put your friendship first.
If it's hard to be around her, spend time with other people and do other things that don't involve either your best friend or this guy. This will help you take your mind off of it and help you to move on.
If you still feel the same way about this guy in a few months, talk to your best friend about what is going on with you and see if she minds you taking any steps towards telling this guy that you want to be with him.
Good luck.
