I feel I am ready to have sex. I really like this guy. I am too scared to ask him out.
I feel I am ready to have sex. But I have nobody to have sex with.
There's this guy that i really like and I got told by someone (a known liar who said she has changed since last time i saw her) that he likes me as well. She asked him if he still likes me. Apparently he said he doesn't like me anymore and apparently he likes her.
I really like this guy. And I am too scared to ask him out. I don't know what to do. Please help me?!
Hi and thanks for asking us.
It can be scary to know how to approach someone you like and to try to work out if he likes you too. But it sounds like you feel you can't trust what the other girl is saying. So either you can wait for him to say or do something, or you can take a step yourself. But get to know this guy better first if you don't even know whether he likes you or not. Be friendly and talk to him so he can see what a great person you are!
About the sex side of your question, take that slowly. I know you feel like you are ready for sex, but 13 is still young. There is no rush; it's not a race. Before getting sexual, make sure you really know and can trust the guy (unless you want half the school to know about it). You also have to work out how to prevent a pregnancy and protect yourself from sexually transmissible infections by using a condom.
It's great if your first time of sex can be safe, positive and caring, not something you regret later. Have a look at the links below for more on being ready to have sex.
You are also well under the age of consent (saying yes) for sex in your state, which is 16 years old. By law, you are not considered old enough to have sex. The laws are to protect kids and younger teenagers from being used for sex or making a mistake. It's a big step to have a guy's penis inside your body. Believe me, hardly any 13 years old girls are having sex. (Or if you don't believe me, have a look at this survey that asked young people if they've had sex or not [PDF: 172KB]. Even by Year 10, 3/4 of girls (aged 15–16) have never had sex.)
If you are feeling curious or frustrated, start with touching yourself. Masturbation helps you know your own body and has none of the risks of being sexual with a guy. Look after yourself!