We'd recently had a fight. I wish we were back to normal and that I loved her how I did.
Hey there, my girlfriend and I have been going out for around a year and a half. We had the most amazing relationship and I'd never felt anything like that.
We'd recently had a fight and it kind of just went on from there... I'm not sure of my feelings anymore but I wish more than anything we were back to normal and that I loved her how I did. Help???
Hi mate,sounds like this relationship has been incredible. You have experienced feelings you'd never had before, and you've been together for quite a long time. I don't imagine there are many guys you know who have been going out for that long.
It makes quite a difference when you see each other for a long time, get to know each other, and get used to being with each other. When you get used to that, it can be hard to think of living any other way.
It felt great, and it was really good for a long time. So why have things changed now? It's only natural that there's change. You have probably both grown and maybe want different things to what you did in the beginning of the relationship. It's hard to say—I don't know enough about what has happened for you both. Whatever the case, I can understand how hard it is to look back on what you used to have and really want it to be the way things once were.
Change is inevitable in relationships. When you get to a change, it's time to discover if there is enough potential and reasons for you to both stay together, or whether you are both suited to a new start on your own, or with a new partner. Enjoy thinking about the past, but know that it is impossible to recreate. Maybe you feel that on a "gut" or intuitive level.
I can think of several times in my life when I have been with a partner I have loved and felt very close to. Sometimes I have found that the love doesn't last. In some relationships, we have fought, and found out how to relate to each other in a new way that we have both found extremely satisfying. In other relationships, we have decided to separate, and start afresh each one on our own.
Think about what you want right now. Does she suit who you are right now, now that you have changed to who you are today? Perhaps you feel that she has changed, and not the kind of match you want anymore.
Don't lose hope for feeling that magic you had once before. Your feelings are unique to you, after all, and you will feel them again, when the time is right. I'm sure you will work to get what you need in a relationship, so that whoever it's with, you will find the kind of things you value and enjoy. Feel free to write back and tell us about your decision.
