I'm scared to do it with him in case we got caught! Is it worth the risk?
Okay so, i've known this guy forever. We're family friends and he's a sex addict, and he's hitting on me. He is a year younger than me and lives a few hours away. We're kinda FWB but i'm scared to do it with him in case we got caught!
idk what exactly i'm going to do. Next time i see him i have a choice, do it or don't. I want to but is it worth the risk?
Hi, thanks for your question. Sex often has dilemmas and choices. (E.g. Do I want to do it or am I just curious? Will I regret it? Or get caught?)
It sounds like this guy will try for sex from lots of different girls (if he's a sex addict as you say). So you are nothing special to him—he's just trying it on because that's what he does. You need to decide if that's what you want for your first time.
Many girls regret the way they lost their virginity (e.g. feeling pushed into it, being drunk, being used, etc.). It can be a lot better than that. It's worth waiting until you feel you are respected and valued by the guy and that he won't tell everyone about it.
There are other concerns too. You are actually under age for legally consenting (agreeing) to sex. (He is too.) The age of consent in NSW is 16. Also, if this guy has had lots of different girls, has he used condoms? Has he caught an STI (sexually transmissible infection) that he can spread to you? How do you plan to not get caught or get pregnant?
Don't take the leap and these risks just to keep him happy. Take your time and be careful and aware. It's heaps better to wait until you are sure than to risk a lot when he is just a friend. Look after yourself