I can't help getting the feeling he is using me. How can I get him to love me back?
Hey, okay so I know this guy and he is perfect in every way. I really want to date him because my life is so shit at the moment that I just need someone I can call mine. He lives up the road from me and I see him whenever I like.
The other day we had sex but I can't help getting the feeling he is using me even though he said he isn't and he never lies. I asked him why we aren't going out and he said because it's hard for him to get feelings :/ He also just broke up with his girlfriend and I'm guessing I am being used as a rebound.
He just told me today that we can't see each other as often because it's wrong because of our age :( We are 3 years apart. Please don't tell me to forget him or get over him—it's not that easy :( How can I get him to love me back?
Hey there. It's hard when you're in love with someone but they can't or don't love you back. But this guys has done the right thing here, not only because of where he is at right now (having just broken up with his girlfriend), but also because of your age difference. It's actually illegal for him to have sex with you because you are under 16 and he is 3 years older than you.
Knowing this, however, doesn't make it any easier to deal with it and it sounds like you could use a bit of help right now. Feeling like life is shit is not a great place to be and it's probably a good time to reach out to your friends, family or a trusted teacher and tell them how you feel. If you don't believe you've got anyone who can help you, make an appointment to see your doctor or local youth health clinic to get a referral to see a professional counsellor.
It's important you develop some good supports and coping strategies to help you through this difficult time. Until you feel better about yourself and your life, it's going to be hard to have a good relationship with anyone. Good luck.