It looked nothing like on porn videos. Is it wrong? What is my problem?
I have a problem with porn. When i watch porn i hump a teddy bear. It feels good, but when i finger myself i don't feel anything.
It's scary talking to people face to face about it. I talked to my friends about it and they do it to. But I get weird fantasies, like I call my friends and they eat me out, or i am having sex.
I took a mirror to see what it looked like. It looked nothing like on porn videos. Is it wrong?
I always want my boyfriend to stay the night when i'm horny, and when i'm not i don't even want to kiss him. What is my problem? Is it normal?
Hi there. It's great to have somewhere safe to ask all sorts of questions.
You aren't weird because you're feeling horny or getting some weird fantasies sometimes. Feeling sexual, curious and confused are all normal for a teenager. A lot happens when your body changes from child to adult.
Our bodies are programmed to be sexual. Nature wants us to carry on the human race after all. Our imaginations can be great for running wild. So it's fine to feel and imagine all this or to hump your teddy bear. We can all find that some things excite us and bring us to climax and other things don't do much for us. This can change with our mood, time or relationship. So don't blame yourself, or your boyfriend, if this happens.
Sex, masturbation or naked bodies are often not like in porn videos. Porn is made to excite or be extreme—it's no more real life than any film or story. So it will be bigger, harder, wetter, etc, etc. than reality. So don't compare yourself to what you see there.
Keep in mind that even when you're feeling horny, you are still young (below the legal age to have sex) and while our bodies can be keen to rush ahead and have sex, there are a lot of issues. Protecting yourself from pregnancy and sexually transmissible infections are some of them. Once you become sexual, it changes a lot of things about your relationship, your reputation and how you see yourself.
Don't rush it. It's not a race. Enjoy your masturbation and take your time to go the next step of having sex, because otherwise, what will you have to look forward to when you're 16 or 20?
Take care.
