I still have feelings for him, but I fear that he doesn't feel the same. What do I do?
Three years ago, I fell in love with this boy in my class. Through my ever helpful friends, I became aware that the feelings were returned, but we never really took it anywhere. Even so, the rest of our friends used to relentlessly attempt to "hook us up" and we essentially became the talking point of the majority of the year level, thanks to the gossip chain. We also didn't treat it seriously, just friends in an awkward situation.
I really didn't like the attention, because then, it was really the first time that I'd ever gotten that far with a boy. I secretly tried to convince myself to get over him, and I "announced" it to everyone, and I managed to convince them and myself.
Then at the end of the second year knowing him, we both moved schools and I didn't see him again until about a month ago, when all the walls I'd tried to build collapsed around me. We still kept in touch through Facebook, and I get this feeling that he'd moved on.
I now realise that I still have feelings for him, and I really want to tell him this, but I have a fear that he doesn't feel the same. What do I do?
Hey there. It can be hard to know how to act when you like someone and aren't sure if they like you back in the same way. It could be that there's some chemistry between you as a result of all the teasing that went on, which may have stopped you two from hooking up in the past.
It's probably best, as in any situation where you like someone, to let things move slowly and see if you can figure out how he feels. Build on your friendship by spending some time together doing things you both enjoy—get to know each other again, as you are a bit older now and things may have changed for both of you. You also need to figure out if you really like him or if this is a hangover from the crush you used to have!
If you can become good friends and get to trust him, you may feel safer telling him your feelings. You should also be able to get a sense of if he feels the same way by how he behaves. If he seems like the really shy type, you may need to get one of your friends to ask him—but not the ones who'll tell everyone else again! Good luck.
