I heard that you can only ask your doctor for birth control without your parents knowing at 16. Is that true?
Hi, I am 15 years old and I want to have sex. My boyfriend is 16 and says he will wait as long as I need him to.
I don't want to have sex without birth control and I heard from people that you can only ask your doctor for birth control without your parents knowing at 16. Is that true?
Oh and I am really short, I am only 4'10. My boyfriend has fingered me a lot and still it hurts sometimes when he puts in 3 fingers. So I'm worried that it's because of my height. Could that be why? And if that is why, will sex always be painful?
I also heard that if you haven't done stuff for a long time your vagina gets tighter...?
Hi there and thanks for your questions.
You're wise to have decided not have sex until you have good birth control. It's also great that your boyfriend is happy to wait until you are ready. It shows that he really cares about you Smile
Access to birth control varies from country to country and also from state to state within countries. So unfortunately, because I don't know where you live, I can't give you specific advice on that. You could send us another question with those details if you like.
In terms of getting birth control without your parents knowing, you and/or your boyfriend should be able to buy condoms from a supermarket or pharmacy/drug store. Even if you plan to use another form of birth control (that you may get from a doctor), condoms are important to use as well because they give you protection against sexually transmissible infections (STIs).
I don't think that your height would affect the size and shape of your vagina very much. Although vaginas can be a little shorter in shorter women and a little longer in taller women, this doesn't affect their stretchiness. The vagina is a tough but flexible organ that's made to stretch for sex and for childbirth. If your boyfriend is using three fingers and it's uncomfortable, ask him to only use two. Just because using three fingers is uncomfortable, doesn't mean that sex will be painful for you.
One way to reduce the chance of sex being painful is to make sure that you are really aroused (turned on) beforehand. Lots of natural changes happen when you're aroused that make sex more comfortable, such as lubrication (wetness) and a change in the vagina's shape. You can also have some artificial lubricant on hand to use if you need any extra. Remember to use a water-based one if you are using condoms. You can buy lubricants from pharmacies/drug stores.
Does your vagina get tighter if you don't do stuff for a long time? There is some evidence that for older women, sex helps keep the vagina healthy and supple, but I don't think that not having sex is a problem for younger women. Don't feel pressured to do any stuff that you don't want to, or more often than you want to.
All the best and take care.
