I have had vaginal discharge for about 4 years. Will this eventually stop on its own?
Is my discharge holding me back?
I have had vaginal discharge for about 4 years. It started 2 years before i got my period, and i thought once i had gotten it, it would stop. Two years after my period and it still hasn't stopped.
I have been wearing a tampon every day in between periods. I've tried wearing panty liners but they just irritate the skin and make it itchy. I know it's bad to wear tampons so much but i haven't found anything else that works. Will this eventually stop on its own?
I'm also worried because I've never even kissed a guy before, and i feel like this is holding me back, because i don't want to go too far with a boy. My friends are a lot more advanced than me and have been fingered and stuff. Some have even had sex before. I'm embarrassed that once i get a boyfriend and we start going places, he'll find out. Also, is it bad that i'm 15 and never been kissed?
Hi and thanks for your question. It sounds like you have been pretty worried about this. I'm sorry that it has been hard for you. When something is worrying you like this it can make you feel pretty bad.
Firstly, although no one really talks about it, vaginal discharge is very normal and a part of life for all women and girls. Just looking at all the panty liners on the shelves in a store will tell you how normal it is.
The discharge comes from the vagina, the cervix (the lower part of the womb/uterus) and a little bit from the uterus itself. Just like saliva, liquid in our eyes and tummy secretions, the secretions made by the uterus, cervix and vagina are there to keep our bodies healthy and working properly, and they even act like a self-cleaner for the vagina.
The amount of discharge can vary a bit between people; some people have a bit more and some a bit less. Most women and girls have a medium amount and lots choose to use panty liners. It can change a bit through the menstrual cycle too, and can be more or less at different times in life, but while it gets quite a bit less after menopause it stays pretty much the same for most women up until then.
The reason it would have started 2 years before your period is because that is when your body starts making sex hormones (called oestrogen and progesterone). It's these hormones that cause the changes of puberty and give us the things that make us girls and women.
It sounds like the discharge you have is healthy because it has been the same all along. If it ever changes, becomes thick and lumpy or starts to smell differently or unusual, you could possibly have an infection and would need to see a doctor to have it diagnosed and treated. You can help to keep things healthy by looking after your vulva and vagina. Have a look at the link below for more info.
Part of being a human is finding acceptance of ourselves and our bodies. It might be helpful to allow yourself to feel kindness towards yourself and to feel respect for your amazing body doing all the wonderful things it does, including making vaginal secretions that keep everything healthy and beautiful!
You are right: wearing a tampon when you don't have a period is not a good idea. That's because it can cause small breaks in the skin of the vagina and then bacteria can get in through that broken skin and make you very sick. Although this is rare it can happen, so it's important you try not to use them when you don't have your period.
Normal panty liners can cause problems too through being irritating because they can have a lot of chemicals and bleach in them (chlorine). It's these things that can cause the irritation, not the panty liners themselves. However, there are panty liners available that are made of cotton and have no chemicals, including chlorine. It would be a good idea to try some of these and see if they solve that problem for you. Some examples of brands available are Organyc, Natracare and Seventh Generation, or you can just google something like "natural unbleached panty liners". You can order them online. Most are available through Drug Store, or you can ask another drug store to get them in for you.
It's completely okay that you are 15 and haven't been kissed! There is no magic age when you have to be kissed by. I know that if your friends are saying they have been kissed and done other stuff then that is going to make you feel pressured to do it too. What matters most though is you and when you feel ready to do stuff.
It's also really important that you could feel that you can kiss a guy and then stop there if you want to. You need to know that it's completely okay for you to stop at any time, and you don't need ever to do more than you want to. That is a very important part of respectful relationships. The best way to deal with it is to talk to your partner at the time and explain that you are not ready to do more sexually, and they should always respect that.
All the best and take care.